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How to grow your list (without social media)

February 6, 2025February 5, 2025 by Alex Van Dromme

Social media is a new thing.

Marketing and sales aren’t.

There have been plenty of ultra-successful marketers selling all sorts of products, services, and even experiences for far longer than social media has been around.

Don’t get trapped in this mindset that social media is the end-all-be-all. The only people who want you to believe that are the ones who want to sell you their social media course.

I’m not saying social media doesn’t work—it does.

But it’s not for everyone and it isn’t your only option.

Realize that, while powerful and useful, social proofis far lower on the ladder of necessity than you might think.

90% of all the ads you see (if not more) don’t use any kind of social proof. They simply make you aware of a problem you might be having, and then offer you a potential solution to said problem.

If the advertiser did his homework, aka he knows what keeps his market up at night, then the problem will be so close to home you can’t help but pay attention to whatever solution the ad might be offering. And if the solution is positioned correctly then you, the customer seeing the ad, will end up buying it.

Regardless of whether you’ve heard of the product before or your next-door neighbor Nancy also happened to have used that same product.

Once your realize this, that’s when countless doors will open for you.

You’ll realize all you have to do is get your product, service, or better yet, yourself (and a plug to your email list—the most valuable asset you’ll ever build and which allows you to create repeat buyers and die-hard fans instead of having to survive on one-time sales) in front of your target audience while talking about their problems or their interests—regardless of what market you’re in (every single product in the entertainment industry solves the “problem” of boredom—which just so happens to be at an all-time high right now; making it the best time ever to grow your entertainment business if you know what you’re doing).

Some possibilities:

Run ads on Google, Facebook, Amazon, popular forums, or wherever your target audience hangs out (simple yet effective)
Get on podcasts as a guest speaker: start small and build your way up. You won’t get on Joe Rogan’s podcast as a no-name but there are thousands of people with dreams of building a big-name podcasts who just so happen to always have a need for guests to interview. Mention what you’re working on and how that could interest their audience and chances are most, if not everyone, would like to talk to you.
Write blog posts, articles, or press releases for online newspapers, other people’s blogs and email lists, internet magazines, or any of the tens of thousands of media outlets all scattered around the internet (most of which are owned by people who dislike writing articles but want to publish as much content as possible so they can make a living off the ad revenue)
Message local newspapers, radio shows, or television channels: Most people lead boring lives. So just by building a business or doing something artsy or creative, you instantly become so much more interesting—which is more than entertaining enough for every local media outlet to want to interview you (what’s a better story than the “local celebrity”?)
Meet new people and keep an eye out for potential joint-ventures: You’re not alone in your market. Use this to your advantage. Work together with other creatives or entrepreneurs. Ask if they’d be interested in recommending you or your products to their audience if you’d do the same for them (or simply pay them to recommend you).

There’s a lot more where that came from, but this should be more than enough to keep anyone busy for quite a while already.

After all, no amount of information will save you if you never get to implementing things.

So get to it.

Start implementing at least one or two of these and build yourself a big email list.

At that point, you might want to master how to write engaging, entertaining, and persuasive emails that’ll help sell your products while keeping your readers reading day after day as well.

For that, consider checking out Email Valhalla here: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

How fair is the game you’re playing?

February 2, 2025February 2, 2025 by Alex Van Dromme

“No one is more convinced of the fairness of a game than the man who won.”

Let that thought sit in your mind. Let it simmer. Let it marinate. Take it all in. Truly think about what it means to you and how it may (or may not) affect your life.

Now, I haven’t given you any context to work with.

I just gave you a quote. I didn’t even mention who the quote is from just to give as little context as possible (you receiving this email from me already has context included based on your perception of me and what I write about, so no context is, quite literally, impossible).

Just to give praise where praise is due, I found the above quote in an old blog post from historian Bret Devereaux, talking about the Spartan agoge, their infamous training regime which is oddly similar (in some, or sadly many, cases exactly alike) to indoctrination regimes terrorist organizations use for the creation of child soldiers—except these organizations have the decency to only abduct young boys from the age of 15 and up, compared to Sparta who takes boys aged 7 and up.

Anyway, I’m getting off track.

See, even though I didn’t give you any context, I’m quite certain you immediately thought of something when reading the above quote. It’s a perfect example of survivorship bias, after all, and can be applied to many, many different cases.

For one, the seemingly overabundance of people who preach about the magic powers of social media marketing (or any other marketing trend for that matter), preaching how everyone should become a creator and if you’re not creating dancing videos on TikTok (or whatever the current trend is), you’re just not serious enough.

And, while they’re not totally wrong about the power of social media, they’re not entirely correct either.

For one, not how I italicized the word “seemingly” in the previous paragraph.

That’s precisely because of this survivorship bias, the phenomenon where, in our case, only the most successful people who just so happened to succeed at social media have the ability to make noise, get the algorithm’s attention, and appear on everyone’s timeline. Everyone else, including people who might have done the exact same things as the “successful” people, showing how it might not be entirely black and white in the talent vs luck department, aren’t able to be heard and thus have no way to warn people about the dangers, obstacles, risk, or any other important reasons explaining why the grass in social media marketing land maybe isn’t as green as it first might appear.

And sure, I love talking down on people’s overreliance on social media, and how they don’t own their audience, are relying on the whims of the algorithm gods, or even the U.S. government as we’ve now clearly seen with the TikTok ban, and could randomly lose their entire business one day; and there’s nothing they can do about it.

Except there is:

It’s called taking accountability for your business, being prepared, not relying on anything you can’t control, and making sure you build your email list—one you own completely and back-up regularly so even if your current Email Service Provider decides to lock you out for any reason whatsoever, you still have your list and didn’t lose a single thing (except perhaphs a few hours of frustration moving over to another ESP).

And sure, the rule of survivorship bias works for people who preach about email, taking accountability, and self-reliance as well.

But I’m guessing, if you just think about it for a moment, even though there might be some survivorship bias happening around here, the arguments still stand, the reasoning is solid, and the suggestions only ever improve and secure your situation, without putting you at any risk whatsoever.

With that said, check out Email Valhalla here to learn more about how to build yourself an email-centered business, including how to write entertaining emails that get you paid and keep your readers reading day after day: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

Never show weakness

February 2, 2025February 1, 2025 by Alex Van Dromme

For some reason, the so-called “social media experts” love circle jerking about how important it is to show vulnerability and to share your mistakes.

This would create relatability with your reader and better your engagement, increasing your success. Or so they say at least…

Yet sharing your mistakes, showing vulnerability, and being open and “authentic”, as they call it, which is the complete opposite of true authenticity if you think about it… The only thing that would do is create doubt, distrust, and possibly even disgust in the minds of your readers.

Sure, some people might end up “relating”, whatever the hell that means, or even sympathizing with you. But people don’t buy out of sympathy—and those that do often feel awful about it afterward, most often even cheated.

You don’t build a business out of sympathy.

“But Alex, I’ve seen some of my favorite creators share their flaws, their mistakes, and their misfortune before and it got great results, I even loved it myself!”, you might complain.

Ah yes. These types of stories do happen. Often part of their infamous “origin story”, which includes, but is not limited to, having to sleep on the couch, or worse, “the floor!”, in a crappy office they’ve hired, losing all of their social connections, thinking everything is over, only to just then, at that almost poetic timing, meet an unknown mentor, pick up an obscure book, or figure out some crazy method that suddenly catapulted them into riches and success.

Or something along those lines.

Anyway, the point remains. Those are carefully, even more carefully than a bomb squad might approach a suspicious backpack in the middle of the town’s square, crafted stories with attention to specific details and especially specific outcomes.

Namely.

Those stories all share a happy ending. An overcoming of the obstacles in front of them. A true underdog story.

These (often made-up, or at least highly altered to fit the necessary message) stories aren’t a rich collection of their mistakes, their flaws, and vulnerabilities. These stories are, in fact, a manifesto of their ideology, a tale to show their extreme perseverance, untapped potential, can-do attitude, otherwordly creative thinking prowess, and everything else necessary to show how incredible of a human being they just so happen to be.

After all, a flaw isn’t a flaw if it can be turned into a positive outcome.

Because let’s be honest.

Nobody buys from a homeless nutjob preaching the healing powers of moon-infused special rocks that hold the body to shape your body like that of Arnold Schwarzenegger without so much as lifting your butt off the couch. But if that same nutjob, preaching those same scientifically dubious rocks, just so happened to have overcome immense odds, built their dreamlife, and appears to be successful solely due to the discovery of these life-altering rocks, then maybe, just maybe, possibly even more than maybe, maybe even quite certainly, you’d be willing to make the leap of faith and trade your hard-earned pocket money in favor for some rocks infused with metaphysical powers, and quite certainly a weird but soothing smell that comes along with it.

Anyway, I don’t know what these special rocks have to do with anything, or even where my imagination came from.

But I hope the point is clear.

People want to believe in someone they can look up to. Someone who seems so far ahead of them, almost blessed by holy powers, someone they can put on a pedestal, carefully listen to, learn from, and be told what to do and how to do it, hoping they can perhaps achieve a similar level of success— or even a sliver of theirs would be enough.

These people don’t “make mistakes”.

Now, if this message doesn’t suit you, if it doesn’t sound “authentic”, then that’s fine. I’m just sharing a message. Don’t shoot the messenger, even though that’s what happens most of the time historically speaking—quite a strange saying then, huh?

But just know and be aware of the dangers that lie behind the ever-so-common piece of advice of “sharing your flaws”.

If you still want to come across as “real” and “authentic”, whatever that means to you, then I’d suggest you check out Email Valhalla, where I give you actual sound and tested advice on how to do so through your writing, without resorting to sharing your flaws or coming up with weird, often shrewd and ill-intentioned, origin stories.

Check it out here: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

Algorithm this, algorithm that

November 27, 2024November 25, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

Wherever you look on the internet, whenever people talk about marketing, they just can’t stop bitching about algorithms.

And here’s the problem.

These people are all thinking too short-term. They forget to think about the bigger picture.

You’re on a platform. A platform that’s not yours. Anything can happen. You knew this when you signed up. So it’s your job to be prepared for the worst. To do the best you can, no matter what.

In the grand scheme of things, you should be building your own world—a place filled with people who want to be with you, hear from you, and buy from you. People who’ll go to the end of the world to find you.

These people ultimately don’t care about the platform, they care about being where you are.

So why are you keeping them ON the platform to begin with.

In that case, if the algorithm fucks you over (which it will), then that’s your fault.

As with any world you’re creating, you should have a place where people can gather. That place shouldn’t be a social media platform you don’t have any control over.

It’s on you to secure your own safety.

What does that mean for your online business?

You either create your own platform, which for many of us won’t be possible (yet), or you simply create an email list. Nobody can take it from you, no matter who decides what on some social media platform.

There are many other tips and practices that you can follow to not be affected by changes such as these. But this should undoubtedly be your first step.

If you don’t have your own email list, then create yours now. Like right now. This second.

And not knowing how to do so isn’t an excuse. Because I’ve got just the thing for you.

It’s called Email Valhalla and it’s a course I created to teach you everything you need about creating, growing, and even monetizing your email list.

Get it here to secure your future: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

My long-forgotten past of playing the social media content creator

November 22, 2024October 8, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

I used to be active on Twitter (I’m never calling it X) for over a year until I got banned and then player around on LinkedIn for a while.

But I’m no longer active on either.

Or any other social media for that matter.

I realized that I don’t actually enjoy the whole social media content creator thing as much anymore. A lot of stuff I read feels (and often is) fake.

It’s all the same dumbed-down information (if it isn’t outright BS advice that’s actively hurting every single person who’s reading it).

Don’t get me wrong.

Social media can be a good thing. It’s a tool like any other, after all.

It’s probably one of the best practice fields for newcomers.

But it shouldn’t be the only thing people depend on. In fact, you shouldn’t depend on it at all.

I’ve seen so many people fall into the social media echo chamber only never to get out again. They skip (or simply forget to learn) so many business fundamentals necessary for their career.

But that’s not even the worst part.

What’s by far the biggest danger is how it feels like you’re doing stuff and achieving something, while in reality, you probably aren’t.

Likes, shares, and follows feels nice. Sure. And so do, one-off clients here and there.

But recurring and predictable revenue, something most social media content creators don’t have, is a whole lot nicer.

So how do you get recurring and predictable revenue?

Well, some ways include but are not limited to, running paid ads, getting on podcasts, driving traffic to your website, writing articles, working on SEO, getting referrals, and so on.

The key here is, however, to make your email list the center of everything.

As the saying goes, “All roads lead to email”.

And if you want to learn how to build and monetize that email list effectively, then check out Email Valhalla here: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

The social media game is fake.

November 22, 2024October 6, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

Attention is the new currency of our current time.

Whoever gathers the most attention, wins.

And so everyone is fighting to get a piece of it—as am I right now with this email you’re reading.

There’s no way around it.

You could say it’s wrong, there’s definitely an argument to be made for it. But how are you going to spread your message without gathering attention? How are you going to make an impact and make positive changes in the world?

Bottom line: getting attention isn’t evil.

But let me warn you about this: everyone on social media is playing the same game.

As with everything, there are evergreen strategies to get engagement and capture attention. One of those is to pick a fight. To choose an enemy and attack them. It can be anything: people, concepts, trends, ideas, beliefs, whatever you want. The more popular, the better.

Controversy gets attention. Controversy sells.

Which means people are fighting all the time. Coffee, morning routines, cold outreach, 4am club, cold showers, cohorts, daily emails, meditation, tweet templates, platitudes, ‘authenticity’, storytelling, copywriting, 18-year-old life coaches, best and worst markets to be in, unhealthy mindsets,…

The list goes on.

This is the sad cycle of social media:

Something rises in popularity → A lot of people talk highly about it → It becomes hugely popular → people start attacking it for attention → attacking it becomes popular → the thing itself is unpopular again → people start defending it again because now that’s the ‘unpopular’ thing to do (which gets attention) → it becomes popular again.

And the cycle repeats.

What I’m trying to say is that you’ll always have people hating everything on social media—it quite literally pays to start new fights and pick new enemies.

The only way to get out of this mess?

Building your own world. Doing your own thing.

The #1 worst mistake you can make is to listen to other people’s advice. Seriously.

Experiment with stuff you come across, get inspired by others, try stuff you think is cool, and stick with it.

Don’t let other people tell you what you can post and what you can’t. Don’t let other people tell you what’s going to make you successful and what won’t. And don’t let other people tell you how many emails you can send before people ‘get annoyed’ at you. Test it out and go see it for yourself.

If you think sending daily emails sounds stupid, boring, a waste of time, then don’t listen to me and do your own thing.

But if you think sending daily emails to get paid sounds cool, exciting, and something you’d like to test out for yourself, then check out Email Valhalla here to learn more: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

Social media is like playing a game that doesn’t exist

November 23, 2024September 1, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

Attention is the new currency of our current time. Whoever gets your attention earns the most. Whether it’s through you buying their products, engaging with their content, or watching/reading sponsored posts they make.

People are getting rich off your attention. And so everyone is fighting to get a piece of it—as am I right now with this email you’re reading.

There’s no way around it. You could say it’s wrong, there’s definitely an argument to be made for it. But how are you going to spread your message? How are you going to make an impact and make positive changes in the world? Well, you need to capture attention to spread your message, right?

So everyone trying to make a change in the system has to abide by the rules of the system they’re trying to change. Which makes them quite the hypocrite.

But I’m not here to give you an existential crisis about the state of social media, the attention economy, and society as a whole.

No, I’m here to warn you. Everyone on social media is playing the same game. Everyone.

So people are fighting all the time. Coffee, morning routines, cold outreach, 4am club, cold showers, cohorts, daily emails, meditation, tweet templates, platitudes, ‘authenticity’, storytelling, copywriting, 18-year-old life coaches, seriously the list goes on.

This is the cycle of social media: Something rises in popularity → A lot of people talk highly about it → It becomes hugely popular → people start attacking it for attention → attacking it becomes popular → the thing itself is unpopular again → people start defending it again because now that’s the ‘unpopular’ thing to do (which gets attention) → it becomes popular again. And the cycle repeats.

What I’m trying to say it that you’ll always have people hating everything on social media. You might say people just don’t ever agree on something. And sure that’s part of it.

But there’s more to it.

It literally pays to start new fights and pick new enemies.

What’s the way to get out of this mess? Building your own world. Doing your own thing.

The #1 worst mistake you can make is to listen to other people’s advice. Seriously.

Experiment with stuff you come across, get inspired by others, try stuff you think is cool, and stick with it.

If you think sending daily emails sounds stupid, boring, a waste of time, then don’t listen to me and do your own thing. But if you think sending daily emails to get paid sounds cool, exciting, and something you’d like to test out for yourself, then check out Email Valhalla here to learn more: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

Self-published author poses the million-dollar question

November 27, 2024August 16, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

Once came a Reddit post titled “Are newsletters better than social media following?”

It went as follows:

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I see a lot of talk about newsletters on here and am about to publish my first (and possibly only) book. As I consider how to connect with readers and what to put as a hook to connect at the end of the book, I was wondering… isn’t social media more engaging than newsletters? Would an invitation to follow a FB page, for example, not be more effective at regularly having a dialog? Why or why not?

I appreciate you guys being willing to share your experience with a newb like me.

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Short answer: email is superior in every way

Longer answer: Take a look at this and think about how “useful” this is.

You create a Facebook page, Instagram profile, Twitter account—or whatever social media you prefer—and invite all of your readers, customers, and other folks interested in your stuff to follow your profile.

Then, even though you’ve already got them to follow you (a difficult step on it’s own) you’ll still have to compete against hundreds of other people (friends, family, influencers, theme pages, other businesses,…) to get the attention of your followers whenever they happen to doomscroll (or zoomerscroll) through their homepage—most of the time while taking a dump at work to avoid working.

And as if that alone wasn’t enough.

If you do happen to grab their attention, then god forbid if you want to show them something nice, guide them to a new product of yours (a podcast you were on, a new YouTube video, your latest book, or even a free novella as a gift) because you will be heavily punished by the platform for “sending traffic away” aka, including a link that points to anywhere else but the social media you’re using.

Hell, let alone if someone doesn’t like something you post and decides to report you. With how today’s social landscape is looking, that could easily mean a total loss of your profile (losing everything you’ve worked for in the process).

You don’t even have to piss someone off to have it happen to you.

Many creators get their accounts banned or closed for no reason at all (and trust me because I’m one of them).

Long story short, you’re shooting yourself in the foot.

Using email as the main form of communication between you and your customers is the only certainty and security you’ll ever have.

Make sure you’re using it.

Anyway.

If you’d like to learn more about all things email-related, then check out Email Valhalla here: https://alexvandromme.com/valhalla

How to grow your email list (without the use of social media)

November 28, 2024July 30, 2024 by Alex Van Dromme

A few days ago I wrote an email ranting about the current state of social media and the boring, unfulfilling, and downright soul-wrenching game you have to play if you want to achieve any kind of ‘success’ according to most “social media gurus” out there.

That message seemed to have struck a chord somewhere because I received quite some responses.

One of those responses was from a long-time reader (whose name I won’t share for obvious reasons) who felt exactly what I was talking about.

He mentioned how he felt like he “had to” play this social media game to build social proof and authority to get started as a beginner in his market.

Obviously, that didn’t please him. So he asked me, yours truly, what I would do if I were in his shoes instead and wanted to build my business from the ground up when nobody knows my name.

So here goes:

First, realize that social media is a new thing.